Relationships Are Supposed To Be Partnership, Not A Dictatorship"

You know when you are in a serious relationship, whether its a marriage, a live in mate, or a strictly one on one relationship, it should be give and take,not just what one person wants, no one i dont care how much you love your mate,should ever have to give up there own identity, to please the other person,when you become a union of one,its supposed to be what both of you like,or can agree on,not just one persons opinion,and thats it,cause if its like that then you are not in a relationship you are in a dictatorship,and thats real talk,and this goes for the bedroom,picking out furniture for certain rooms,or going on trips,or restaurants,it should be discussed and not just the one person saying this how its going to be my way and not yours,and i dont care how much love a person gives you,or you think you getting,if you not able to have a mind of your own,then shit you might as well tell people you are in love with a dictator  and thats not cool cause i thought the point of becoming a union was uniting as one not uniting as I.